How to not let Politics ruin your life

So we’ve gotten to the point where politics is the new american pastime, which is a good thing considering the things that politicians decide have long-term effects on all of us. With the coming of a Trump Presidency we have seen it get to a point where now everyone has something to say whenever anything happens, but a lot of people have a bunch of nothing to add to the conversation and they’re hurting more than they’re helping – themselves, among others.

I’ve been dealing with being the black sheep since the last election started, I had family members that seriously tried to bar me from thanksgiving last year for supporting Trump. I only add this information to say that I have been through the stress and irritation of having to adjust your life to (mostly) everyone around you deciding to suddenly want to become “politically sound”.

One thing I see that is common for people is for them to expect them to make simple comments and that end up causing change in their communities or in the world, too many people expect just because they have a good idea that others will latch on and want to uphold it. After a certain point it becomes almost like muscle-memory to be reactionary towards current events and the news, and you find yourself becoming a lot more emotionally invested than you ever planned on.

People have spent the entire year screaming about random “isms” and “ists” that they think are taking over, they’ve been shutting themselves off from people who think differently, there have been heavy arguing and debating and all sorts of things. People have lost family, friends, hell even relationships over their views when it comes to how they feel on cultural and political issues and it’s a very easy thing to avoid. The unnecessary stress that comes from being emotionally wrapped around the current events and politics of today can be crushing to those who don’t know how to handle it, but it’s very easy to keep it from ruining your life.

-Don’t bring it up:
Most of these disagreements would never happen in the first place if people didn’t feel compelled to tell everyone how they feel about the world’s current events. A lot of people couldn’t care less, especially about the things they are in no position to change. You talking to them about it will either provoke a defensive response or go in one ear and out the other, and unless they’re actually interested in politics they’ll probably get annoyed.

-Learn to agree to disagree, you can’t change everyone’s mind:
Not everyone feels the same way about things, you’re guaranteed to meet many people in life who have differing opinions than you. Some of them may be more well thought out and concise than yours, some may have no reasoning or logic, but at the end of the day there’s a reason why everyone believes what they believe. Whether it be emotion, logic, or they just haven’t heard a compelling enough argument to feel otherwise, people have their own standards and methods for processing information. It’s not always possible to make people see your side even if you’re right, and in those types of situations you just have to to just let it go and let others be steadfast in their beliefs. Not every position can be swayed, but at the end of the day if it isn’t hurting you then it isn’t serious enough to warrant spending serious time on.

-Avoid being defensive:
When it comes to politics it’s easy for people to get attached to figures or ideologies. “Liberal” vs “Conservative” is a hardcore divide, and the cult followings garnered by both Trump and Obama more than prove my point that there are many polarizing figures and ideas in the political realm. Thus, when you are a steadfast supporter of someone there comes a time where you are adamant about correcting the record when it comes to misinformation about your candidate. However, some people take this too far and get outright defensive and offended whenever anything is said about what/who they support, and lash out. Don’t end up becoming one of these types of people, because in all honesty you look like a guard dog.

-Get a hobby:
You wont have much time to annoy people with talk about the government and their regulations or even annoy yourself with it if you have much more captivating things to talk about. Go on nature walks, start a project where you have to build or design something, get into writing, etc. Basically fill your mind and time with things that enable you to have an outlook on life where you are building your own. What goes on around you isn’t that big of a deal when you’re busy digging your way through your path.

-If you get no value from it, let those who can worry about reacting:
Reactions are the new wave in politics. Everyone wants to be the first one on the scene with the hottest take so they can get the most retweets and spread their message reach as far as they can, I’m guilty of it. However, one thing people have an issue with doing is being overly reactive towards things that aren’t a positive or negative for them. Case in point, the recent Charlottesville protests. That entire event was mainly white people protesting against white people, yet somehow black people allowed themselves to be dragged into it and create a big fuss. In the end nothing was gained, a lot complained, and a lot of time was wasted.

-Learn to look at things objectively:
This is one thing I do that people have a tendency to hate me for. I have said this time and time again, I analyze things how they happen and look at the way they happened to get a better understanding of it. I am able to objectively see why people do things they do and things go the way they go even if I dislike the result or the methods used. I’m not the kind of person who complains about the way things were done if I have no say in it, I just try to see if there are ways I can use it to my benefit or prevent it being used against me in the future. People love to invoke emotions into their arguments and fail to see things rationally because they don’t like the issue at hand or the result. That’s counterproductive, you can never reach long-term success in systems you don’t understand and comprehend.

-If you want to change something, get involved and do it. If not, shut up & take care of your family:
This one is pretty self-explanatory. If you feel like there are critical issues that are serious enough that you will be affected by it, then you need to act. If you don’t have the time or can’t put in the effort to go try to make change, stop crying about the things that are happening now. If you just see people say mean things that hurt your feelings, and don’t know how to be an adult and not let it bother you I have a book you may want to read.

At the end of the day politics is a system that encompasses many programs, laws and ideas which in the long run affect us and the well-being of our country. If you want to get involved then do so, but if not you need to be focusing on yourself and your own well-being. Your family, your friends, the people around you & in your immediate area should be your focus – not what’s on the news and social media all the time. At the end of the day my mantra of Nobody Cares, Work Harder inspires me to keep on track in life, and if you let me help you you can be on the same wave. Just subscribe below for updates.

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