Ahh, the dreaded “Fuck these bitches, get this money” mindset. Honestly, I used to be one of those types of people so I can see where the mindset would come from, but that doesn’t mean I feel like it’s a good thing.

Before y’all get mad, take heed that me saying that term is not me calling women bitches, rather I’m identifying the mindset I’m talking about so you all know what I’m referring to.

It’s in our TV shows, in our movies, in our rap music – and I’m not even talking about “misogyny” here, it’s more a more introspective issue than that that boils down to fear and insecurity.

Men are insecure of being made look bad by a woman because of the reaction they’ll get from family/friends/social media, so they’re afraid of letting their guard down for a woman. This is usually why men try to have backups, so if things go south they have a fallback option to rely on to not only keep them from looking dumb, but to have already in the tuck.

Female are insecure of being used up and thrown to the curb by men, so I notice they tend to fall into one of two categories: Either the super shy and conservatively sexual woman, or the “sexually empowered” types who I feel have fallen under the “fuck these niggas and having feelings for them” mindset that they don’t care who or what they do with their body.

Let me be clear here, I don’t care what they do either, I’m just making observations.

Now, back to the point.

I think a lot of it start with the fact that this is a sexually charged society in damn near every medium available. In TV, in movies, in almost all forms of entertainment sex and sexuality sells, and many people use this to their advantage.

I think the fact that many people start off with these experiences when they were younger, and I also think by starting young and not even being in the right state of mind for a long term romantic relationship, let alone a long term sexual relationship, desensitizes it for many people as they get older.

It can get to the point where sex becomes the only thing they lust for, or something that doesn’t bother them in the slightest – which is usually something that affects men and is a contributor to promiscuity.

Now I’m more conservative with my sexual activity than most that I know, especially because I’m a lot more health conscious than them and you never know what you might run into out here.

Don’t get me wrong, again, I’m not generalizing – if a man wants to fuck a whole cheerleading team and a woman wants to blow the football team that’s none of my concern. Are there certain people that are going to look down on you for it? Yes. But you have to understand that not everyone shares the same views and opinions of things as you do, but at the end of the day there will be people out there that like and dislike the things you do, but you have to live for you.

I’ve done a few threads on Twitter discussing this topic before, which I feel like would be perfect to re purpose for this post:

and also:

 

A lot of all this comes from people not wanting to share their true intentions for fear of the other side not being into it. For men this is usually only wanting sex, while for women this is usually the longing to work towards a relationship. I’ve been in the type of mindset where I felt like I had to finesse for pussy when I was younger, and let me tell you it’s stressful and time consuming.

Instead of just being upfront and if they weren’t on the same type of time, chalking it and going on about my business, I would put in more time than necessary trying to subtly get my foot in the door – and end up never getting near it in the process.

This was when i was younger and sex was more a priority to my life than it was, even up to earlier this year the idea of spinning plates was interesting and enticing to me, but I’m past all of that now.

When I first started learning about the Red Pill in terms of dating, the whole plate idea seemed enticing. Between my own short attention span and finding an amazing woman, this has since changed.

Besides the fact that, outside of the opportunity being in the immediate vicinity sex doesn’t matter to me, it’s another “outside looking in” situation and seeing all these sex crazed people run around like they need it or they’ll drop dead.

Certain parts of society make it cool to be a player, both male and female, but neither of which are on a good path to building a strong family and passing their traits down to their offspring. Not to say they can’t end up changing and doing better later on in life, but in some cases they get to the point where it’s way too late – whether it’s a disease, desensitization of feelings, or whatever else.

I’ve long shed even my consideration of the “fuck these bitches, they’re all hoes blah blah wah wah” mindset, even when I sort of agreed I always felt weak for letting the activity of one woman get to me that much.

That’s my whole thing with the situation, people let the actions of an individual scar them forever. It’s like you’re scorned for life by the actions of one person who probably didn’t even have your best interests in mind and you just couldn’t see it.

One of my mantras is “I do what I do for those who like it, and fuck those who don’t,” and this applies to my relationships, both romantic/sexual and with people in general.

If you’re with someone who:

A) Doesn’t have you or your bests interests in mind, and has already shown they’re selfish, and

B) Has already given you their ass to kiss and gon on about their life, why are you going to sit around sulking?

Why would you let the thoughts and actions of a leech, a parasite, someone who just used you to fill up space in the day determine who you think you are as a person?

The defensive mindset of treating everyone like objects to protect your own feelings may seem great for a while, but after some time it desensitizes you to even being able to feel for people. I know too many people, male and female who at this point are empty vessels. I doubt they’ll ever be happy or in a successful relationship, and I wish they the best but I can’t see someone who can’t even comprehend trusting another person ending up in a happy couple.

You were done wrong, and yea it sucks. Yea you might be hurt, it might be something that happens more frequently than you’d like – all of this may be the truth, but if you refuse to treat a scar it will become infected.

So the next time someone leaves you scarred and then disappears into the night, you have two options:

  1. You can cry, or
  2. You can control your emotions and stay an individual, not a conformist.