your life adapts to the ideological lens that you see it in. if you go to sleep & wake up every morning believing you're a victim, well….
— donny bravo (@lordaedonis) May 20, 2016
The ideological lens is a term I retrofitted to describe the way I view my life when I finally broke free of the Victim Mentality mindset. When you’re taught that your all your people ever were were slaves and oppressed, and you start to believe you’ll find yourself ending up in the same cycle. Throw in the fact that with 12 years of 8 hour, 5 day a week classes where you’re mentally bombarded with facts and the need for memorization and you start to lose your sense of skepticism and accept everything.
It’s is a mindframe, but for simpler explanations I like to call it the ideological lens, as you will see shortly.
When you wake up in the morning and start your day, how do you see yourself? Do you look in the mirror and see a Victor of Opportunity, or a Victim of Circumstance? When you enter new situations, do you go in with the mindset of coming out on top or do you already envision yourself being a loser? With the people you know, are they happy and beneficial people to be around, or do you have a bunch of do-nothing friends who always need a loan?
When you wake up in the morning you’re outfitted with a certain lens that will drive your mood and attitude towards things for the rest of your life. Each day it can either be the same prescription from before or a different one, but no two people wear the same lens. No one can see your life the way you have so no one can tell you about your experiences and hardships, but you can’t let these hardships be the crabs dragging you to the bottom of the barrel.
Waking up in the morning and looking at yourself as a victim of oppression will only leave you walking around miserable and feeling like the world hates you. Walking around with the defensive lens will have you getting extremely offended and ready to snap back at the smallest little thing. Walking around with the opportunity lens will enable you to see new opportunities and situations that you might not have seen before due to your hesitations.
Whatever lens you have can be changed, that is the point of this entire post. If I was weak-minded I would let myself subscribe to the victim lens, I’ve been through some things in life and there were times when I thought I was never gonna be able to pull myself out of the hole, but I persevered. One of my signature phrases is “Whenever you’re at your lowest, there’s nowhere you can go but up” and it’s stuck with me because it used to motivate me in so many of the situations that I’ve now beaten.
I used to be harassed for my race, for being fat and ugly, for “acting white” and not being a nig nog, for not always having that much money growing up at times…. but you know what all of that did to me? It lit a fire under me, it made me wanna grow up and do better than everyone who ever talked down on me. Yea I could have sulked, cried and complained about the “oppression” and harassment I was facing, but what good would that do? When has breaking down and crying about a serious situations every been the key to success? Never.
So how do I see my life?
When I wake up in the morning and see the sun shining, I know that it’s gonna be a good day, and that’s the case because I’m gonna make it that way. Life is truly what you make it, and you notice the people who forge their own paths are usually more well off than those who go with the flow.
When I use the internet I don’t let “harassment” or people calling me coons affect me, my mindframe is too strong for that. The internet is the internet, it’s entirely too easy to unplug and go back to the real world and get back to the joy in your life, or even scroll past it entirely and not worry about it. People don’t understand the more they react to online trolls, the more they will get trolled but that’s another subject entirely.
When I go outside and go through my day, no matter what happens I always find a way to bring myself back to a positive mood because I know life is great for me right now, especially compared to how I used to be.
There were times when I was broke and didn’t know where my next dollars was coming from, and now I don’t have to worry about problems like that. I’m healthy, I stay away from toxic people and situations, I don’t go throughout life worrying about if other people will like me or not, I’m just in a state of joy right now and everyone can be.
Even if you’re going through extreme hardships and struggles, the fact that you’re working and putting in effort to rebuild yourself from the rubble and not staying on the mat when life knocks you down should be reason enough for you to be optimistic about your life.
Either way, when you wake up in the morning and go to sleep at night, do you see yourself as a Victor, or a Victim?